“Is youthful for her age, in looks, dress, behavior, and tastes.” I’m worried about growing old. Will people find me immature for loving childish things? Disney, anime, cosplay, wild clothes, cutesy hairstyles, glam rock, plushies, video games, silly dancing… Why are these things youthful? I can’t grow out of my special interests and stims!
“Will have obsessions but they are not as unusual as her male counterpart’s (less likely to be a ‘train-spotter’).” My elementary school special interest? Barbies! I set up intense sets for my dolls and would decorate and clothe them for hours, all the way through fifth grade. Nowadays, I usually fixate on fictional characters or […]
“Is very outspoken at times, may get very fired up when talking about passions/obsessive interests.” Most of the time, all I want to talk about are my special interests. If someone were willing to listen, I could talk about the same topic for hours. I would even just repeat the same stories if I could, […]
“If she likes [someone], she can be extremely, noticeably awkward in her attempts to let [them] know, e.g. she may stare when she sees [them] or call [them] repeatedly. This is because she fixates and doesn’t understand societal gender roles. This will change with maturity.” I have always been the queen of coming on too […]
“May be a self-taught reader, been hyperlexic as a child, and will possess a wide variety of other self-taught skills as well.” For me, there has always been this divide with reading. While I was certainly hyperlexic with both words and numbers, I am only a fast reader with books that I’m especially interested in. […]
Find a way to carry your special interests. Whether it’s embedded on a keychain, wristband, wallet, etc., it’s a great way to find comfort and joy in tough moments, or to avoid tough moments in the first place. I transformed my Moogle into a purse. (I keep my things in the back of its head!) […]
What does your world revolve around? If you find that your special interest is a person, you may be headed down a frightening path. Obsessing over people can lead to heartbreak or, at its worst, painful unrequited reciprocation.
“When you are a Bear of Very Little brain, and you Think Things, you find sometimes that a Thing which seemed very Thingish inside you is quite different when it gets out into the open and has other people looking at it.” – Winnie the Pooh. Oh how I identify with Pooh’s words! I have […]
As a child, I would spend hours preparing elaborate settings for my dolls, only to play with them for ten minutes. Now, I dress my own self up for events in much the same way. My advice? Co-host events or attend activities with a close friend. This way, you’ll have a little accountability and won’t […]
I may feel like an alien outcast sometimes, but I know I’m never alone. Remember that there is always someone out there who shares your special interests (or is more than willing to explore them alongside you). If they haven’t found you, start looking for them! Sometimes we just have to be brave enough to […]