“Usually happiest at home or in other controlled environment.” Jumping into an unfamiliar place or even a familiar place that feels too haphazard or has unknown social expectations fills me with dread and a desire to flee. On the other hand, I love certain restaurants, coffee shops, and conventions, and I tend to go to […]
Change is hard, but what if the change that’s happening is in ourselves? Although people with autism like routines, remember that we, too, evolve. I don’t love all of the same things that I loved 10 years ago. I live in a different place. I have new friends and a different job. And I’m still […]
In order to prevent a rocky start to your day, I strongly recommend waking within the same 10 minute window, eating the same breakfast every morning, and following the same routine in terms of getting ready. Luckily, these things come pretty naturally for autistic peopl who set an alarm in the morning!
Like a gradually increasing bar graph, my overstimulation increased each day of the week. By the time I reach a new Sunday, I’m completely depleted. Because of this, I try to leave my Sundays completely open and free, just in case I need to stay at home all day.
“How do you change inflexible thinking habits or improvise if stuff doesn’t go the way u expected.” Repetition, routine, structure. That is the glue that keeps us together, but the world isn’t designed that way, and those around often seem to throw a wrench in our perfectly designed plans. While my immediate reaction is anger, […]
Jam-packed schedules with never-ending deadlines can be living nightmares for autistic people. We need free time to recover from overstimulation and pursue our special interests, but we are also rule followers and intrinsically motivated to meet all due dates. For this reason, college studies and high intensity professions might be overwhelming. As a precaution, plan […]
Structure, schedules, routine. We love these daily supports. Still, whether in the workplace, the school building, or any other public setting, the unpredictability of the world catches up to us. My method of bending to the unavoidable flow of unforeseeable circumstances is to quiet down and turn my daydream on. I nod like I’m present, […]
Take yourself on a date. If there’s a place you spontaneously want to go, embrace your sudden and unexpected impulse to branch out from your autistic routine. By welcoming these unplanned decisions, I’ve done amazing things like gone alone to a new restaurant, fixed damage on my car, and gone for a solo two-hour hike. […]
Exact measurements of socializing don’t exist. We can never know the perfect amount of social interaction that we can take on the daily. That’s why it’s so essential to schedule in breaks and flexible appointments, and to foster an assertive ability to cancel plans for our own self-care. We may think that one coffee chat […]
Have you ever wondered when it’s time to go? When I’m hanging out with a friend, it’s very difficult to know when I’ve overstayed my welcome. I try to set a clear end time when I can by doing the following: 1) Set an appointment or other scheduled event for about two hours after my […]