“Words and actions are often misunderstood by others.” My genuine compliments sometimes sound like insults. My acts of kindness can come across as condescending. My “no” gets taken for “maybe” or even “yes.” I don’t always know the right sayings, the appropriate phrases, or the key words to be understood, and the results are often […]
“Will have a close friend or friends in school, but not once adulthood is reached.” Everyone seems to be similar, have similar interests, like similar types of conversation, and be on the same page. Except me. I changed friend groups every year in school, mostly because I was forced out. As an adult, I can […]
What does your world revolve around? If you find that your special interest is a person, you may be headed down a frightening path. Obsessing over people can lead to heartbreak or, at its worst, painful unrequited reciprocation.
Stay connected to old friends. Even though it’s hard, especially for the autistic person to maintain those social connections, the old friends are often the ones who know and have accepted our quirks the most. Even just an email, phone call, or text exchange can keep those meaningful relationships going.
Because of my challenges with cognitive empathy, I find it hard to read between the lines! I even had to look up the phrase “read between the lines” before writing this post, just to be sure I was using it correctly. Why is that? I have a tendency to take things literally and have to […]
Rusted, bent out of shape, used up, unneeded. Those were my feelings in high school and my third year of college. Why? Bullying. I maintain, pining after cruel friends is no way to heal or love yourself. For the aspergirl, it may be better to be friendless and cleanse for a time than to keep […]
When I was a teen, I used to always say, “I can be like anyone. I can like what they like and be their friend.” I didn’t realize this was mimicry, but I did notice that after a time, I couldn’t keep pretending, and I’d find myself friendless again. This is common in younger aspergirls, […]
“How do you realise someone is making fun of you and how do you deal with sarcasm ? Because it can cause me so much stress when I don’t understand sarcasm or when someone is mean to me.” Humor is a tangled up mess. My family loves sarcasm, so it was hard growing up and […]
“Dating!?” Here are a few spots of wisdom from my dating experiences: 1) Obsession and love are not the same thing. Tread very carefully if you notice that you are viewing another person as a special interest. 2) If you’ve started seeing someone new, do everything you can to shower, groom, and do your laundry. […]
Loneliness is a long road, because we often lose our motivation to walk it. Outside of our own unique qualities, being autistic sets us apart from the rest in a way that is sometimes invisible. This leads to bullying, comparison of self to others, and oftentimes a defensive self-preservation. When I open my eyes and […]