Some days are hazy, especially after a big social event or long work week. I walk as though in a fog. Getting dressed is difficult, going out to run errands feels difficult. Back when I was misdiagnosed with fibromyalgia, the doctors called it fibro fog or chronic fatigue. What was it really? Overstimulation. Mutism. Executive […]
How does your bed reflect your need for personal space? Or does it not actually represent a place for social recovery? My bed is captained with a ladder. This loft-like structure solidifies the reclusive atmosphere of a safe space.
With Black Friday coming up, I’m sure many of us autistic people are preparing to avoid all stores and take advantage of Cyber Monday instead. For those of us who hope to take on the challenge, here are my tips: 1) Do shop alone, without any friends or partners. This way, you won’t have to […]
Thanksgiving can feel a little out of our control. Routines are different, meals are different, socializing is at an all-time high. On this holiday, I just want to remind myself and the autistic community to take any breaks you need and go home when you’re ready (not necessarily when your family is). Drive yourself to […]
Like a gradually increasing bar graph, my overstimulation increased each day of the week. By the time I reach a new Sunday, I’m completely depleted. Because of this, I try to leave my Sundays completely open and free, just in case I need to stay at home all day.
How do you experience crowds? Unless I’m in a large group that is together for a similar purpose that I’m personally interested in (concert, convention, etc.), I feel bereft of space, somehow lost, and panicked to escape. In this situation, remember to breathe deeply, locate the nearest exit, and even find a bathroom to recover […]
“How do you cope when every situation keeps pushing you over the edge? It seems no amount of time alone is enough these days and I feel embarrassed and ashamed.” I’ve had spells where it felt like no matter what happened, big or small, I just couldn’t handle it. It could be a simple request […]
Simplicity. Pare your life down. Recently, I’ve been recognizing that I overcommit. In my mind, I falsely tell myself that so long as I’m keeping a schedule, then I’m responsibly taking care of my austisic self, even if that schedule is jam-packed! This leads to oversocializing, overmasking, and an increased likelihood for making social errors, […]
Layered. The times when I seem the least emotional on the outside (quiet, no eye contact, compliant) are usually a sign of deep turmoil within. I cannot determine how to express distress, so I appear aloof instead. When I reach this place, I know that I need some quality alone time. I simply won’t be […]
I used to cook breakfast every morning and dinner every night from scratch. However, I’ve found that when my life gets overwhelming, when I’m overstimulated, when I get home and I’m so done with masking that I have lost all energy, cooking is the last thing I’m able to do! However, going out to eat […]