If you’re worried that you may have made a social mistake and upset someone, try seeing the forest for the trees. In other words, make an attempt to let go of the tiny details and look at the whole picture. If you think of the person you may have upset as a whole person, with […]
Sometimes, with each day presenting new autistic challenges, I find it useful to pause and consider my life in three phases: 1) Prediagnosis, 2) During and immediately after diagnosis, and 3) Present day. The growth and development in my self understanding that I recognize from this reflection encourages me to move forward.
Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night, reliving in your mind every possible social mistake you could have made that day? When this happens to me, I pray. I also suggest deep breathing exercises, reading a book you’ve read many times, or drinking something warm while journaling. Whatever you do, try […]
Change is hard, but what if the change that’s happening is in ourselves? Although people with autism like routines, remember that we, too, evolve. I don’t love all of the same things that I loved 10 years ago. I live in a different place. I have new friends and a different job. And I’m still […]
Tis the arrival of fall, watch out for bonfires. The flickering brightness of the flames, smoke inhalation, and extreme heat can make you woozy and decrease your ability to cope in social situations.
If you find something you love, buy or create multiples. Having more than one of that beloved token (sunglasses, buttons, sweaters, etc.) helps ensure that you won’t be caught without that comfort item.
Ever been 100% sure you made a social mistake? Afterward, you’re caught in the cycle of playing it over and over in your head, scared and unsure? Look beyond. Seek a trusted friend’s opinion on what happened and how you should move forward. And really listen to the friend’s advice. Try not to fall into […]
For school, try remote access, online programs. There’s nothing like having power over your class times, learning environment, and social interactions. All the homework, projects, and tests are already stressful enough!
Stay connected to old friends. Even though it’s hard, especially for the autistic person to maintain those social connections, the old friends are often the ones who know and have accepted our quirks the most. Even just an email, phone call, or text exchange can keep those meaningful relationships going.
Consider the color of your decor. Even if bright colors (like orange, yellow, or any neons) are your favorite, try to keep your home decor neutral or pastel. It will do wonders with maintaining a comfortable stimulation balance.