“Doesn’t go out much. Will prefer to go out with partner only or children if she has them.” I don’t have a romantic partner or children, so I’ll rephrase this for me to say, “Will prefer to go out with closest friends only.” That is completely true! It’s hard to have fun when I’m spending […]
Change is hard, but what if the change that’s happening is in ourselves? Although people with autism like routines, remember that we, too, evolve. I don’t love all of the same things that I loved 10 years ago. I live in a different place. I have new friends and a different job. And I’m still […]
Find places you can grow and people you can grow with. Autistic people have this loyalty to objects, people, and places that is both admirable and problematic. It’s okay to prune old favorite hangouts from your life if they’re no longer serving you. And it’s okay to seek out new connections if you and your […]
Research places before you try something new. Whether this is the shops on a street or the items on a menu, a little bit of research can go a long way in terms of maintaining a comfortable level of stimulation and sensory input.
Driving can be a true hurdle for autistic people. Why? Individuals on the spectrum appreciate clear and specific rules, but there are simply too many laws to read through and so many unspoken expectations on the road. If you live in a place with limited public transportation and you’re pursuing a license, don’t be discouraged! […]
Take yourself on a date. If there’s a place you spontaneously want to go, embrace your sudden and unexpected impulse to branch out from your autistic routine. By welcoming these unplanned decisions, I’ve done amazing things like gone alone to a new restaurant, fixed damage on my car, and gone for a solo two-hour hike. […]
The phrase, “You should try __!” makes my whole body buzz with the beginnings of overload. Why? Because I take things literally; I think that the speaker truly wants me to branch out and try something new and will be disappointed in me of I don’t. Also, scheduling does not come naturally to me. So, […]
Have you ever wanted to try a new restaurant but couldn’t make yourself go? The routine and comfort of visiting our favorite spots can cause us to avoid trying new things! Even so, it’s possible. I just have to make going to the restaurant or coffee shop an event. This means, I study the menu […]
Acknowledge new growth! Sometimes, it can be hard to see how far we have come. Take a moment to pause and reflect on how you’ve cultivated healthier coping skills, a stronger sense of personal identity, and/or a safer, more sensitive living environment. Congratulate yourself for the gains! These moments of self-positivity can help halt negative […]
Some days we blossom and others we wilt. Comparing ourselves to other autistic people who seem to be more “successful” is like comparing roses to daisies. Success is subjective, and perception of success is skewed. Today, let’s focus on our own individual growth!