Does it ever feel like the door to opportunity is half open or half shut because of your diagnosis? I used to be petrified of social mistakes, and even the suspicion that I’d made one would make me want to run away from any opportunity. But identifying that as my problem helped me to seek […]
You are truly a gift to the world. Diversity only betters humanity’s experience. We challenge status quo, and positive change only occurs when perceived norms are challenged.
Loneliness is a long road, because we often lose our motivation to walk it. Outside of our own unique qualities, being autistic sets us apart from the rest in a way that is sometimes invisible. This leads to bullying, comparison of self to others, and oftentimes a defensive self-preservation. When I open my eyes and […]
Sometimes I judge myself as though I’m neurotypical. I grow frustrated: “You should have reacted XYZ way.” “You should have worked harder.” “You shouldn’t have forgotten.” “Learn to fix it. Be better.” I’m scared under the pressure of the shoulds, and I expect myself to meet the expectations of the world. But at the end […]
“You’re not queer. You’re autistic.” Have you heard or felt this sentiment? I’ll have you know, it’s a blatant lie. Autism comes in all colors of the rainbow.
Unapologetically myself. There’s a beautiful authenticity that comes with being an autistic person. We reject norms so often and want our individualism to shine. However, I often have meltdowns when choosing my clothes for the day, simply because I’m caught in the crossfire between who I am and what society wants me to look like. […]
Layered. The times when I seem the least emotional on the outside (quiet, no eye contact, compliant) are usually a sign of deep turmoil within. I cannot determine how to express distress, so I appear aloof instead. When I reach this place, I know that I need some quality alone time. I simply won’t be […]
Being on the spectrum does not mean the possibilities for your life have decreased. We have choices, we have opportunities, we have talents, and we have drive. Choose an adventure, and then pick another path if it doesn’t work. Autism causes us to navigate life differently, but that doesn’t change the essential truth: It is […]
Is it hard to see your experiences reflected in those of others? Me too. I can get contrary and nitpick the details. But contrariness can only get me so far. Stop. Pause. Be aware of a me versus them mentality. We autistic people already feel so isolated! Our tendency to notice the small differences is […]
Wilt and rise. For autistic people, this is not necessarily a daily choice. We wilt and we rise multiple times throughout each day. We struggle, and yet we are resilient and powerful. Remember your strength whenever you face an adversary, be it small talk or meltdown-worthy overload.