Coming out is never easy. For the queer autistic person, we have to choose whether or not to disclose our disability as well as our sexual identity. What’s more, the aspergirl often experiences a shifting sexual identity due to her subconscious masking, but her black and white thinking make revealing the sexual identity shift, i.e. from lesbian to pansexual or bisexual to asexual, difficult or even self-shaming. My advice? Be who you are and say who you are! I personally share my identities to all my close friends and closest colleagues, or whenever the topic has naturally come up in a group setting where disclosure would be beneficial or comfortable.