Behind the mask, aspergirls are often afraid. What do these people around me think? Have I made a mistake? Am I on the wrong page? Am I talking too much/too little? Am I meeting expectations? Am I being perceived as strange or a snob? Hyper or uninterested? How can I keep up? In my experience, it’s better to vacillate. If I notice my excitement has come through too much, I switch to quiet for several minutes in order to listen and gauge where the rest of the room really is. If I’ve been quiet, I start silently preparing a thoughtful response. After a difficult time like this, I allow myself to cry and remind myself that I am more than what others (who hardly know me) think of me.